I almost titled this post Dead Bodies—because, honestly, that’s what it’s about. But to avoid sounding too morbid or dramatic, I’ll call it Awareness.
Recently, I found myself in a situation where I was certain the people around me could sense the pressure I was under. I even tried to communicate it gently, hoping they’d catch on. But nothing changed. At first, I was flabbergasted—and yes, a little angry. But eventually, I had to face the truth: some people are so unaware that they will step right over your dead body without even realizing they had anything to do with it.
So what do we do with that?
We could get angry.
We could flip tables, scream, or cut people off.
And honestly, sometimes that reaction sounds fabulous. But the truth is this: something is preventing them from seeing the toll their requests or expectations are taking on you.
And in that realization, you become aware—of your need to set healthy boundaries.
So the next time you find yourself clearly expressing your limits, only to have them ignored, remember this:
it is your responsibility to say, “No. I will not be doing that.” (Or inwardly acknowledging that their expectations are not something you are required to live up to.)
Does the thought of it cause an overwhelming feeling of guilt and failure to well up in the pit of your stomach?
Yeah, me too.
So much so that at this point in my journey it feels nearly impossible.
However, I know it is possible, and I also know those in my life who love me, desperately wish that I learn it. After all I want the same for them. I would fight to my death (more dead body talk) for them to get it, so I must fight just as passionately for myself.
So this year I’m making it a point to live it out. To practice it. To let it become part of who I am.
To be someone who does for others, and yet knows when it’s time to allow others to do for themselves.
Let’s be real: there will definitely be posts titled ‘Relapse’, ‘Oops’, ‘Here I go again…’. But I’m going to get it! And so are you!
Awareness is the first step…that’s where change begins.
RP
